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Have you had the talk?

By Karen Richardson

Family Saving Money In PiggybankKids are surrounded by sexy advertising everyday. And although you think you are being discreet, they see all the plastic cards in your wallet; credit cards, debit cards, even loyalty cards. You know it’s just a matter of time before they get curious and ask: “Where does money come from?”

You’ll want to mumble something vague about the bank, but you can’t avoid the subject forever. Do you want your kids learning about interest from a department store credit card? Do you want their future compromised because they created debt too young?

You need to have the talk.

Ok, so I may have made the “money talk” sound like the sometimes awkward, “birds and the bees” talk, but that’s because talking to our kids about money can be awkward, and parents sometimes feel ill-equipped to give good advice. Continue reading

7 Stages of Financial Well-Being™ – Where do you stand?

By Karin Mizgala, BA Psyc, MBA, CFP®

Whether you believe in New Year’s resolutions or not, doing better with money in the coming year is probably on your mind.  Why is it such a popular resolution, yet so hard to keep?

One of the biggest reasons is not having a clear sense of what financial success means to you.  The other reason is that it’s just not easy to do what it takes to be good with money in the complex and busy culture we live in.

It takes less effort to hope that a windfall will suddenly appear or to just stay stuck in financial inertia, but wouldn’t it be nice to finally feel in control of your money once and for all –  on your own terms? Continue reading

Can money make you happy? Try giving some away.

By Kathryn Mandelcorn, FMA

Money Coaches Canada Giving and happiness

Charles Dickens wrote A Christmas Carol in 1843. Most people know the story of Ebenezer Scrooge, a miserly man who transforms his life after three spirits teach him the joy of giving. It seems Dickens was way ahead of the research on money and happiness.

Dr. Elizabeth Dunn an associate professor of psychology at University of British Columbia and Michael Norton an associate professor of business administration at Harvard Business School wrote an article in which they say their research has shown that “people with a comfortable living standard are happier than people living in poverty.” But once people reach a “comfortable standard” of income, which falls somewhere around $75,000 a year in the United States, additional income doesn’t create additional happiness. Continue reading

Do you have a debt free date?

Credit is seductive. Credit card companies spend millions of dollars to convince you to borrow their money. They have catchy slogans like:

  • It’s everywhere you want to be. (Visa)
  • There are some things money can’t buy. For everything else there’s Mastercard.
  • What’s in your wallet? (Capital One)
  • Don’t leave home without it. (American Express)

Couple Calculating BudgetIt’s no wonder that credit monitoring agency TransUnion is predicting the average consumer’s debt will reach an all time high by the end of 2014. It’s also no wonder that if you google debt stress you’ll get over 69 MILLION results

But there are things you can do right now to lower debt and debt stress. Continue reading

The Key to Financial Resolutions That Succeed

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Have you ever looked at your credit card statement and been washed by a wave of guilt, because you broke your resolution to spend less? If you have, you’re certainly not alone.

Why do resolutions lose the power to motivate?

Often it’s because we don’t know why we’re making the resolution in the first place. We think we know – too much debt, looming retirement, insufficient savings for a rainy day – but those reasons are generic and vague and won’t likely inspire restraint against a fantastic deal on a great purse, or a big screen TV clearance sale.

Making plans and resolutions before you know what’s really important to you, is like buying building materials before you know what you’re going to build. If you want your resolutions to have a chance at success, the key is to make them for reasons specific to you. Continue reading

A Better Way to Stay on Track with your Money

While taxpayers are collecting receipts and getting ready to file returns, there’s often the realization that another year has passed and they’re no closer to reaching their financial goals. We have clients who feel money is just trickling out of a hole in their pockets but they’re not really sure where it’s all going or why there is nothing left at the end of the month.

Meticulously measured budgets and long tallies of receipts are not the answer for everyone. If you have patience and discipline to do that, you probably already know where every penny is going so you don’t need a system to get your cash flow on track.

But for those who do need help, Sheila Walkington, co-founder of the Women’s Financial Learning Centre and one of Canada’s first Money Coaches introduced what is seen by some as financial heresy: Forget keeping track of what you’ve already spent and look to the future.

Now before you take this as a carte blanche blessing to run up that credit card and dive into the overdraft, Sheila and our associate money coaches put some strict parameters on the process.  It goes back to the old days of putting money into envelopes to make sure everything – from groceries to the gas bill – got paid. When payday rolled around, you’d put cash for food in one envelope, money for the phone bill in another, savings towards new clothes for school in yet another and so on.

Consider the case of one of Sheila’s clients, who confessed to almost cancelling her post-Christmas appointment because she didn’t want to admit just how high her Visa bill had climbed, “I had no trouble putting together a budget based on what I had spent,” she said. “I was spending more than I was bringing in and when annual expenses rolled around, it was a scramble to find enough money to pay them.”

Sheila’s formula? A spending and savings plan that makes you put your money where your priorities are. And it uses no fee high-interest accounts that are offered by banks such as the Royal Bank or ING Direct to recreate these “electronic” envelopes – so the car insurance money gets saved and not spent on pedicures, the account for university fees adds up instead of being drained by car repairs or other unexpected expenses. And the vacation budget, often a priority but usually the first to be sacrificed to overspending in other areas, gets left alone, safe from impulse shoe buying or unlimited lattes.

In effect, it doesn’t just give you a budget to follow. It forces you to limit your spending in each category to the amount you have in the account. If you’ve determined that it costs you $800 a month for groceries and by the third week you’re down to your last $60, no seeking solace in the credit card or pilfering other accounts. Get out the recipes and use up what’s left in the cupboard.

For the client who was stuck in overdraft, it took some discussion and hard decisions to set priorities. She opted for several accounts, because if there was money in a single account that had to cover several long term items, there was a temptation to borrow from it with the expectation that money would magically appear to fill the account by a bill’s due date. Other clients may choose to manage with fewer savings accounts, but the key is to create clarity. Do I have money for clothes or not? Have we spent the dining out money or is there still some left for Friday night?

The payoff can be huge. And not just in terms of money but in peace of mind. “The first time my annual insurance bill came around and I actually had enough money in a savings account to pay it I realized it was working,” said Sheila’s client. “And when I was able to plan a vacation and pay for it instead of putting it off or putting it onto my credit card, I was thrilled. The spending guilt was gone. Now it’s easy to make financial choices — I can walk by Manolo Blahniks on sale and keep walking because I know if I spend money on them, there goes the trip to Hawaii.”

Is a budget just not working for you? Check out our Smart Money Essentials free Preview class and learn more about how to make a Spending and Savings plan work for you.

Are you Friends with Your Money?

How many of us see our money as a trusted, supportive friend who is there for us at all stages of our life? Or, is your experience with money more like a trip to the dentist – you know it’s good for you, but oh, so unpleasant. Maybe you’re more like Scarlet O’Hara with your money – “I’ll think about it tomorrow”. For some of us our money plays out like a controlling parent who spoils our fun and restricts our freedom. Or perhaps your dreams of comfort and ease in retirement are eclipsed by visions of yourself as a bag lady?

I know I’m not painting a pretty picture here, but I’ve been in the financial planning business for over 20 years and I am constantly amazed by how few people I meet that have a joyful, healthy, supportive relationship with their money. Even people who have a lot of it! With so much focus on money in our culture, it strikes me as tragic that we spend so much energy on it – either avoiding it, obsessing about it, worrying about it, controlling it, but where’s the joy, the satisfaction, the reward?

Most of us have very complex relationships with money and it has a very powerful influence on our life – on the work we chose, our personal relationships, our sense of self. So we certainly have lots of reasons to a have good, healthy relationship with money. So why don’t we? What stops us from making friends with our money?

Mostly I don’t think that it’s cash that we lack, but an awareness of what role it plays in our life, what our beliefs are and what emotions are tied into our dealings with money. Most of us also lack good role models – we see corporate greed on the one hand, poverty on the other – god knows many of our parents didn’t know how to handle money successfully. We aren’t taught about it in schools and we don’t often get a chance to talk openly and honestly about money and our feelings about it.

What is Your “Money Story”?

In the work that I do with clients, I spend as much time listening to clients tell me about the guilt, the shame, the worry, the fears that they have around money. Just last week I was reviewing a client’s income and expenses worksheet and she was struck by how much anxiety she was experiencing when we tallied the numbers. She talked about the fear of being judged, the worry about facing reality, the shame of not being further along financially than she was, her fear for the future.

Another client I worked with had a large family inheritance but was overwhelmed with a sense of responsibility to “do the right thing” with the money. She described how she felt like a child with her mother still watching and monitoring what she did with the money.

These are the kinds of stories I hear all the time and I’m sure you have your own money story. So long as it’s kept hidden within you, the influences will likely show up somewhere in how you relate to money and often times these factors limit your ability to be successful with money, and more importantly, with your life.

What is a Healthy Relationship with Money?

In a healthy relationship with money, your money supports you to live a satisfying, fulfilling and meaningful life and you in turn, respect your money enough to learn how it works, to be honest with where you stand with it, and to do the best you can with it.

How do you know if your Relationship with Money is Healthy?

Start by examining your beliefs and thoughts about money and reflect on your experience with money (past and present). How did your parents handle money? Was it a source of stress in your family when you were growing up? Are you satisfied with the amount of money you have? Do you feel confident that you have enough money to live the life that you want? Do you avoid opening your bills? Are you a shopoholic? Do you put off making financial decisions and taking control of your money?

Making Friends with your Money

I know it’s tempting to think that more money will solve your problems, but ‘more’ doesn’t guarantee a better relationship with money or increased happiness. I just read that 70% of lottery winners blow their winnings within a few years and end up where they started – or worse. And a recent Maclean’s survey found that, as long as a person’s income was at least $40,000, more money didn’t mean greater happiness. The real key to financial satisfaction isn’t measured in dollars and cents, but in how successfully you manage and allocate your resources towards living an authentic and purposeful life.