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End Financial Avoidance and Reclaim Your Power Today

By Sheila Walkington, co-founder and CFO Money Coaches Canada and the Women’s Financial Learning Centre

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Most people procrastinate from time to time, it’s human nature to put off tasks we believe to be unpleasant or time consuming. But the habitual putting off of our responsibilities, especially our financial responsibilities, transforms procrastination into avoidance. Avoidance —Stage 2 of the 7 Stages of Financial Well-BeingTM —is one of the most potentially damaging stages on the path to financial fulfillment.

Are you in Avoidance?

It’s essential to understand that financial well-being comes with a deeper understanding of where you stand with money, emotionally and financially, developing concise and attainable goals, getting organized and implementing a manageable plan to move forward. The 7 Stages of Financial Well-BeingTM is a framework that will help you better understand where you are, and what actions to take, as you move towards Financial Fulfillment. Continue reading

Money Coach Spotlight: Melanie Buffel

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” –Albert Einstein
Melanie Buffel Money Coach in Vancouver BC

Melanie Buffel, BA Psych, MBA Candidate

Melanie Buffel changes the way her clients think about money.

“When I begin working with clients,” she says, “whether they are individuals, couples or entrepreneurs, they usually present me with foggy numbers: unclear expenses, numbers that are rounded up or imprecise. Then at one point on the journey they begin updating their spreadsheets, rebalancing their plan and speaking with a level of confidence that tells me they’ve had a paradigm shift. It’s wonderful to see them believe in their capacity to make sound financial decisions.”

Understanding what’s important to her clients is the foundation of Melanie’s approach. She recognizes that every person, couple or business owner has different needs and goals, and on an even deeper level; everyone has an emotional relationship with money that has been shaped by their childhood and life experiences.

Conflicting money personalities can cause tension within a relationship, says Melanie. “I help people clarify their priorities, and as an objective third party I can ask the hard questions without judgement.”

Melanie’s objective perspective can also help couples who enable each other with magical thinking solutions to their challenges. Judging or enabling is just two sides of the same coin; nothing changes.

Clients working with Melanie can expect change. “It’s so important that we clear the fog and determine priorities and goals, but that is just the beginning. The end game is integrating workable solutions into the reality of their lives.” Continue reading

It’s time to break down the money talk taboo

By Melanie Buffel, B.A. Psych, MBA candidate

Our culture is rife with mixed messages about money. Money is freedom, money is greed, live simply – but to be happy you’ll need this car, have these clothes and that phone. Yet one message comes through loud and clear; don’t talk about money – at least not at the personal level.

On a broader scale we talk about money all the time. The financial media talks about the level of consumer debt that Canadians carry, or how unprepared many people are for retirement, while at the same time new homes seem to get bigger, and Facebook is full of vacation and home renovation photos. We hear that people are struggling but we don’t see it. We commiserate with friends that gas and groceries are too expensive, or that university tuition for our kids is weighing us down, but we often do that over a nice glass of wine or an overpriced coffee. Everyone we know seems fine. The thing is, behind closed doors, not everybody feels fine. Many people feel overwhelmed and stressed, but are too embarrassed or ashamed to tell anyone. The isolation goes even deeper if financial worries are being kept from people otherwise close to you, such as a spouse, close friends or family.

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The biggest money mystery – Why do I do what I do? (Part two)

Depressed woman By Melanie Buffel, BA Psych, MBA candidate

In part one we met Jill, a successful single women in her early 40’s who was laboring under debt and stuck in a pattern of avoidance and confusion with her money. She tried many times to create a budget but just couldn’t seem to make it stick. A big or unexpected cost always seemed to come up and lead her to overspend. She felt like the universe was conspiring against her, “This always happens to me!” One month it was her property taxes, the next month it was a vet bill and then a car repair and then her parents came to town and then and then…. Once the budget was blown for the month she didn’t see the point in being careful with her spending and would “treat” herself with a new outfit, a new haircut and dinners out to deal with the anxiety. Her VISA bill climbed and her sense of failure deepened.

The eight money archetypes, as defined by Deborah Price in her book Money Magic, offer a way to build our awareness of what fuels our money behaviours and transform our relationship to money so we can release the fears and live from a deep sense of abundance.

I shared the first four archetypes in part one. The remaining four types are described below. Do you recognize what archetypes Jill is operating from? Do you have a sense of what archetypes most influence your behaviour? Continue reading

The biggest money mystery – why do I do what I do? (Part one)

By Melanie Buffel, BA Psych, MBA candidate

woman with question markJill is a single woman in her early 40’s. She enjoys her job and has interesting hobbies. She has good friends and family who often remind her how fabulous she is. Her cat seems to think so too, at least when he’s hungry.

Jill makes $75,000 a year, significantly more than the average Canadian income of $48,250. Yet she feels trapped by her money, always chasing her debt and never managing to put anything away in savings. How do other people manage she wonders?

I’m not giving any secrets away if I tell you it is relatively easy to create a spending and savings plan for Jill. We can add up all the numbers and create a balanced plan that provides a good lifestyle today as well as put money away for a dream vacation, some renovations on her condo and toward her retirement. We can easily make the numbers add up on paper. But then the real work begins. Continue reading

Is Money Keeping You Stuck?

By Melanie Buffel, BA, MBA Candidate
Money Coach and Educator

  • You can only see one way of doing things – and you don’t like what you see
  • You’re overwhelmed by choices – and you don’t know which one to pick
  • You don’t know the first step – so you can’t get going
  • There’s too much at risk – and you’re afraid of chasing the big dream.

Do you feel like your financial situation is keeping you stuck in a rut, running in circles or paralyzed about a decision? The situation might feel immovable, entrenched, even hopeless. The good news is, it’s not. Continue reading

Podcast – How Do the New Mortgage Rules Affect You?

Featuring: Colleen Saunders, Mortgage Agent with The Mortgage Department Corporation (TMDC) and Renée Verret, Certified Money Coach with Money Coaches Canada.

Get informed on the new mortgage rules surrounding your biggest asset! Re-financing soon? Considering buying an investment property? Looking to renew? Find out if and how the new mortgage rules, announced July 9th, 2012, affect you by listening to this podcast.

Listen to our Let’s Talk Money Podcast by clicking the link below

How Do the New Mortgage Rules Affect You?

Read Colleen’s blog post detailing the new mortgage rules.

 

Podcast – Managing Finances as a Single Income Family in a Double-Income World

Managing Finances as a Single Income Family in a Double-Income World

Featuring: Melanie Buffel, BA Psych, Money Coach with Money Coaches Canada and Single Mom

Are you a single income family or considering becoming one? Listen in for some great information and suggestions making decisions, getting support and making it all work.

Listen to our Let’s Talk Money Podcast by clicking the link below

Managing Finances as a Single Income Family in a Double-Income World

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Christmas in July

Melanie Buffel Money Coach in Vancouver BCby Melanie Buffel, BA Psych

Once upon a time, I used to dread the coming of the holiday season. Don’t get me wrong, I love the traditions surrounding Christmas; the gingerbread house, the tree and all the family cheer.

What I dreaded was the need to squeeze hundreds of extra dollars from my December paycheque to fund these traditions; not to mention gifts worthy of childhood expectations, fueled by the media and peers’ determining what was new, cool and absolutely necessary!

Now you may be saying to yourself, “Why is she talking about Christmas in July?” Well, I will tell you.  Back in those days I would manage the holiday season with the help of my best friend, VISA. I was convinced this was exactly what VISA was designed to do – pay for things that I could not afford! After a couple of years of this same strategy and an ever present VISA balance, I decided things needed to change. I learned my lesson – a little planning ahead can help me survive the holiday season without a painful credit card hangover. This is how I did it:

First, I made a list of all the people I wanted to buy gifts for and how much money I would spend on each. (download our Gift Worksheet) I considered this list carefully with an eye to not only reducing my costs, but also considering what sort of gifts would be most meaningful to each recipient.

Gift Then I did the following:

  • I reduced the focus on ‘stuff’ and opted for one really cherished gift and a stocking full of practical items instead of a bunch of little things my kids didn’t need and may not even want.
  • I shifted to buying one gift for a couple or family instead of individual gifts.
  • I began to give many people on my list a specially prepared gift basket with homemade jams, jellies and cookies that were specific to their individual tastes, and far more appreciated than less personal store bought items.
  • I also considered the costs of extra activities and an increase in the food budget for the month to account for the extra hosting duties.

By starting this planning months ahead, (like July – or better yet in January – well maybe next year!), you can incorporate these expenses into your regular monthly spending instead of running around in a panic in December.

How do you figure it out?

  1. Total up your Holiday expenditures
  2. Divide by the number of months before December arrives. For example, if you plan to spend $600 at Christmas and there are six months to go you will need to save $100 a month to have a debt free Christmas.
  3. Start saving that amount each month

Sounds simple! It can be, but the key to success is to put it into action by opening a separate no fee savings account and labelling it “Christmas”, “Hanukkah” or “Gifts” (check out the options at your bank or try one of the online banks like Tangerine or Ally). Treat this savings like a bill by setting up an automatic transfer to the account on the same day each month soon after you get paid. Don’t attach this account to your debit card so you won’t be tempted to spend it on unrelated impulse purchases.  By the time the holidays are here you can transfer the money to your chequing account so it’s easily available.

This bit of savings magic can help make the season a lot less stressful and maybe even a little more magical! For our family it means the focus of our holidays is once again on spending time with people we love instead of hitting the mall, and we are all the richer for it!